Monday Always has a Way of Kicking You in the Nuts

[browncoat2x2]

It's inevitable.

Everytime I have a really good weekend, and come out of it on a high, something invariably happens on Monday to kick me back down again. *sigh*

Found out today that the position my husband has basically been filling in for and doing the duties of, without the pay or authority, has been given to some new person they hired, who wasn't even interviewing for that job!!!! They just liked her so much, they decided to offer her the job, without telling anyone in the department that it was open, without posting it, nothing...

I had a little heads up this had happened and let him know before it was announced in his department meeting, and he was quiet throughout it, but his boss was very aware he was not happy, and when she asked him afterward why, he told her. Basically, this came out of left field, becuase they weren't supposed to be interviewing for this job, and it was never posted, and by his manager saying that she was grooming this person to be her replacement, she basically just slapped everyone else in the department's faces by implying that none of them were good enough for the job.

She asked him if he would have applied, and he said yes, which seemed to surprise her, and then she said 'Shit' but it was too late by that point, obvoiusly, they've already hired the woman. So, not only has he been there for his manager, keeping her in the loop, basically running the studio (she's had some tough times recently) but when it came down to it, she didn't even *think* of him for the job...

Everyone else in the office just assumed he'd be getting this job, hell, they've all already been treating him like he's got the position, reporting to him, going to him to solve problems, job related and coworker related... it should've been offered to him.

He is not happy. I am pissed. I am so upset and angry that I am physically sick. I need to cry, and hug, and hurt something... We did not go to our stick fighting practice tonight, becuase when you seriously want to hurt something, it's not a good time to go swing a stick at your friends.

This was the only opportunity for advancement in his department. Now there's nothing, and we really have to look at whether or not it's worthwile to continue at this company... The same thing happened to me last year, essentially... there was no manager over my dept., just the big boss (my husband's boss) and she just 'created' this job for a guy, younger than me of course, without letting me or my coworker know in advance or have any opportunity to apply for it... I'm not sure the 25 days of holidays a year is worth it anymore.

We could take jobs with less pay if they were local, and still save by not having to commute 2 hours everyday...

I'm sad, and angry, and depressed and feeling very alone right now...

Comments

[goldy-dollar.livejournal.com]

Awww, sweetie. I'm so sorry. *hugs you*

Man, that SUCKS. I HATE stuff like this, stuff that's just so beyond our control, and done for god-knows-what reason.

*cuddles you*

[browncoat2x2]

Thanks, sweetness *cuddles back*

I didn't even put in the creme de la creme, my computer got totally hacked this morning, full of malicious spyware, including one that tracks key strokes, and since I'd used my credit card on line just yesterday, and have no idea how long the keystroke tracker was on my computer... well, cancelled one credit card, new card in the mail... sheeesh

I scanned with every damn program I have, and some of them were blocked from their sites by the gorram spyware.. but I got a program called Spyware Doctor, and it fixed me up right as rain, so, at least there's a happy ending in that case... hopefully the Hubby can wrangle a raise out of this whole work fisaso.. that at least would be helpful..

anyway, thanks for reading and commenting on my rant! *huggles you*

[hjea.livejournal.com]

Aw man, that's quite harsh. I know there's nothing really I can do to make it better (especially on lj) but...

*LOVES YOU*

Some days just suck. Hopefully a better one for you and your husband will be imminent. How about I order you an extra good one for tomorrow? : )

[browncoat2x2]

Oh! An extra good day tomorrow! That'd be Shiny! Thanks!

Thanks so much.. it was a pretty sucky day, that's for sure.. tomorrow can only get better I hope...

*HUGS*

[cathiexx.livejournal.com]

Oh. Honey. That is horrible. *cuddles* I hope things work out, anyway. I guess you guys should probably sit down once you feel a bit better and just work out what's best for the two of you.

Major suckage.

*sends flowers and chocolates and tea and hugs*

[browncoat2x2]

ohh, flowers, tea, chocolate and hugs!

Thank-you! It really does suck... I'm still feeling pretty bummed about it... we'll see what happens today I guess, and then see from there...

Thanks for the cuddles and support!

[agent-rouka.livejournal.com]

Wow, that is just... utterly harsh. Just how oblivious a boss do you have that she's done this twice now without expecting some negative reactions??

Grrr.

*BIG BIG BIG HUGS*

Life can be unfair... I suggest a srict chocolate and cuddles therapy to curb the initial trauma and create energy for dealing with it?

Shall I make you a death-by-chocolate cake?

*hugs*

Best of luck with whatever lies ahead!!

[browncoat2x2]

Wow, that is just... utterly harsh. Just how oblivious a boss do you have that she's done this twice now without expecting some negative reactions??

I dunno... she's working essentially two jobs, split between here and a development team, which really takes up all her time, and so she's really out of touch with things here... and she's had some personal stuff going on too... not an excuse really, but...

*BIG BIG BIG HUGS*

Thank-you *so* much.... I *really* needed that *snuggles*

I'm just gonna have a little cry on your shoulder, kay? Then I'll be much better... *cries*

Shall I make you a death-by-chocolate cake?

Ohh, I'll *never* turn down your DbC cake, darlin' *G*

Thank-you *hugs*

[agent-rouka.livejournal.com]

I agree that it's not really an excuse. Maybe it spreads the blame a little further up to HER boss for having her so stretched out that she can't do her job properly, but still. Mmph.

Thank-you *so* much.... I *really* needed that *snuggles*

I'm just gonna have a little cry on your shoulder, kay? Then I'll be much better... *cries*

Awwwww... *huggles and rocks you back and forth* It'll aaaaaall be alright in the end...


Ohh, I'll *never* turn down your DbC cake, darlin' *G*

Yay! *starts setting up orderly bowls and measuring ingredients* Hee!

[browncoat2x2]

I agree that it's not really an excuse. Maybe it spreads the blame a little further up to HER boss for having her so stretched out that she can't do her job properly, but still. Mmph.

To a certain extent, yes... to both her bosses... because she has two... but, yeah.. still...

Awwwww... *huggles and rocks you back and forth* It'll aaaaaall be alright in the end...

*sniff sniff*

thanks

Ohh, I'll *never* turn down your DbC cake, darlin' *G*

Yay! *starts setting up orderly bowls and measuring ingredients* Hee!


*beams* Oh hooray!

and... I, uh, I think I'll just watch from a clean, safe distance this time *smirk* .... afterall, I want this cake to get made ;o>

[terimaru.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear the work thing. Work is such a major focus in our lives that when it's bad, it seems to affect every other thing you try to do. At least you have the hope of a raise. Wow, a 2-hour commute! Gracious! Is that because of traffic or distance to your job?

[browncoat2x2]

And the hope of a raise is confirmed, woot! Apparently, there is a 'substantial' raise coming for him in July, though, what substantial means, I'm not sure... last time it was 10%, which would be nice.

As to the commute... it's 1 hour each way, so two hours total.. I could NEVER handle a two hour commute one way, everyday.. one hour is more than enough for me!! *G*

[isha-libran.livejournal.com]

Oh geez!

That boss-woman deserves to be thrown out of an air lock!!

I'm glad it all worked out in the end, though, with the pay raise and all.

[browncoat2x2]

Yeah, the raise is good...

The thing with the boss is, in ohter aspects she's really not at all bad to work for... just, once in a while she's braindead I guess.. :o/

Oh well, in the long run, I suppose I can look at it and go, he's getting more money, but doesn't have any of the responsability that goes with the manager position, which means no extra hours, or weekends... so... I suppose it's not bad from that position.. it's just the overlooking and the opportunity that wasn't offered that irks the most...

Anyway *G*

Thanks alot!!

[isha-libran.livejournal.com]

I suppose I can look at it and go, he's getting more money, but doesn't have any of the responsibility(...)which means no extra hours, or weekends..

Hee. Way to look at the bright side! =)

it's just the overlooking and the opportunity that wasn't offered that irks the most...

I know what you mean. It's that unfounded assumption that people make that you're 'not interested' that can really bug you.

[browncoat2x2]

Even the hubby is seeing things in a more positive light now... so, yeah... the words 'substantial raise' can work wonders *G*

But, you're exactly right..it's the assumption, and it pisses you off and hurts a little too... but, a couple hundred bucks more a month is not a bad thing *G*